How to Grow Your Spark!

It only takes a tiny spark to begin a roaring fire. Our lives grow from a single spark in a much similar way.

We tend to have Velcro for noticing the sparks we don’t want and Teflon for those we do. We unwittingly grow what is undesired when we allow the negative to attach to us and the positive to slide on by.

But we get to choose our experience of the circumstances of our lives. We can be intentional of which sparks we want to focus on and grow.

To help you visualize this process, here is a graphic for you:

Below is a summary of the steps to grow any sparks you wish to sustain:

  1. Notice the spark. Is it one you want to grow?
  2. Focus deeply on its feeling in your body
  3. Expand and spread it around your mind and body
  4. Amplify it with a laser-like focus
  5. Build neuropathways by repeating #2, #3, #4
  6. Sustain by repeating #5 and noticing desirable outcomes
  7. Grow your spark into a rip-roaring fire!

Devote a minimum of 10-20 seconds on each step involving a spark that fuels you and that you want to grow. Let go of those that don’t bring you joy. You can grow positive feelings as easily as you can a vision or process; however, if you focus on what you don’t want, you can grow that too!

You are the one who decides which sparks you want to grow, those that create suffering or those that bring you peace, joy, and love.


Dr. Cindy Hardwick is a Coaching and Consulting Psychologist with nearly four decades of experience. She specializes in well-being for healthcare professionals, executives, and entrepreneurs.  Learn more about her here and at her website

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